Welcome to my website. It gives information about my Psychotherapy & Counselling practice. For Counselling in Tunbridge Wells, Counselling in Tonbridge, Counselling in East Grinstead and Counselling in Crowborough areas of the UK, please do contact me.
For a short video on my approach to therapy click here
My practice here in Withyham is –
5 minutes from Groombridge and Hartfield,
10 mins from Crowborough, Forest Row and Edenbridge,
20 mins from Tunbridge Wells, Tonbridge, East Grinstead, Uckfield,
30 mins from Sevenoaks, Haywards Heath and Heathfield.
My training was in Gestalt Therapy, which is still to me the original ‘integrative’ approach. Our difficulties in living are often about how, at some level, we can’t face what life is presenting us with, we turn away from the here and now and react based on our past patterns of avoiding trauma (in its widest sense). Trauma is the process by which we bury the hurt, fear or distress that was unbearable at the time. As part of this and in order to keep it buried, we unconsciously split the connections between our head , heart and body. This leads to conflicted and confused ways of being. Because these parts cannot then communicate properly with each other we don’t know ourselves. We don’t know what we feel, we can’t access the wisdom of our body, or we give up thinking, or some combination of all three. We are then stuck with all sorts of compensatory motivations and reactions that restrict, limit and confuse us.
Therapy is about being supported to gradually face what was, and still is, stuck and unbearable within us. An important part of this is about repairing the connections between our heart, head and body. People have enormous innate wisdom and that wisdom is always trying to find a way to heal us, our inner conflict exists partly because of this. So undoing the knots we tied ourselves up in, releases this wisdom and we can start participating in an evolving circle of healing and growth, towards living ever more fully and satisfyingly in the “here and now”.
Throughout this website I have tried to share my understanding and enthusiasm for this psycho-spiritual form of psychotherapy. It has a clear understanding of the processes of change and development through deepening our self-awareness and taking responsibility for ourselves. Whilst therapy supports us to heal and grow, in the end it is only you who can can know your truth and heal yourself, choice is an essential part of our process. So, therapy needs to be both support and challenge to really help on this journey towards our freedom and realising our amazing potential as human beings.
If you are new to therapy please visit the “New Client Information” page to find out more about my practice and how I may help you. I hope find the website interesting and useful.
I have been practicing since 2001, am a BACP accredited Counsellor & Psychotherapist, a UKAHPP and UKCP accredited Psychotherapist.